Dear David:
What the hell is wrong with you and your wife? Since the day you said your vows, she has had it in for the whole lot of us-Mom, Dad, Judy, Jay, Al, all of your nieces and nephew and the list continues from there. She is rude, hateful, insulting and not at all gracious. Little by little she has managed to alienate every one in your family. Are we all such terrible people?
For a long time, I blamed her. But you allowed her to treat us like the scum underneath pond scum so now the blame has shifted to you. What have we ever done to deserve this treatment? It is sooo very sad for me when I see Jake-all of 4 times a year for a mere 30 minutes/session. He has no idea who I am. Jen tails him like bees on honey and never gives us a chance to even touch him. Do you remember when she explained to Mom not to touch his hair because it becomes greasy? Do you even know the hurt she inflicted on Mom? Mom-who has been the best grandmother to all 4 of her grandchildren. Notice that I didn't include Jake-you won't let her grandmother him. Only Maryann is allowed any real time with him. SHAME ON YOU!
David, he is missing out on cousin closeness. Have you ever looked into your nephew Ben's eyes when you come for your "visits"? He won't even acknowledge you. That is sad. Ben use to worship the ground you walked on. And I am sorry but Lanie's kids are not related to you and Jake. Yes, I heard Jen introduce them to your "friends" as Jake's cousins. We all-including Jake's real cousins-heard it. Why do you think my family high-tailed it out of your house so fast at Jake's birthday party?
You should be ashamed of the person you have become. To dismiss a whole side of a family is a reflection of who you are now. Someday you will be sorry. Mom and Dad will not be around forever and neither will their sad attempts to gain entrance into your life. What will you tell your children when they ask about us? Or will you let your wife explain it to them?
So.... it is with a heavy heart and tears in my eyes that I must disown you as my brother. I never, ever thought I would say that to you. But I am sick of the insults and ill-treatment of my family-Jay, Ben, Mom, Dad, Judy, Alan, my nieces and my inlaws. I am just so tired of being treated like dirt.
Signed-Your former sister,
Carol
2 comments:
That sounds like a very difficult situation. I hope things can be worked out eventually but I can see why you feel that way.
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